For me I’ve felt there’s always be a stigma to online dating so if the occasion arouse when talking to friends I’d get embarrassed and play it off as though I didn’t. But for my situation I didn’t class it as online dating as I never went out to look for it or played it out as a relationship.
This sounds strange doesn’t it…? Well let me continue.
Nearly three years ago is when it all began, I met him online, a guy from Australia, when I was in a very low part of my life, thinking no one cared and perhaps they would be better off without me.
On the 24th may 2014 is when I met him online whilst playing my all time favourite game ‘GTA’. I always had a fear of people online as you can never trust they are who they say they are, I found that out the hard way, but let’s not get into that right now.
On that day he sent a photo of himself as I told him my doubt but I did not send him one. We went weeks on end talking, sometimes 9 hours plus a day, it wasn’t until October of that year he first saw me (5 months later). I didn’t send him a photo, instead I used a live camera. He was of course shocked because after talking for so long you build up an image but I was nothing like he pictured.
By this point it didn’t matter about looks as we truly understood one another and liked each other for our personalities. We felt so comfortable with one another as we were in the same situation, felt like we had no one, both our parents were divorced, didn’t have a job and so we enjoyed talking so much, making the best out our time with laughter and smiles.
By the time I started a new course and went back to college, I had no interest in making new friends, I was happy with just him and my original ones. A few months later we took our talking from our console to our computers using Skype. By this point I knew absolutely everything about him, last name, address, family members, history, just everything. But him on the other hand only knew my first name, some family members, and that I live somewhere in England, and he was alright with this.
I was too scared to tell my own family members of him as I was scared of their judgment, so for the first month of speaking to him I told family but they continued to ask me things about him so in the end I told them I stopped talking to him. So in the end they forgot of him, though I continued to tell my little sister everything as she didn’t really have a judgment on the situation.
As the second year past it began to get more serious with actually wanting to make plans and meet each other there was also some missed communication and as I began to get bored of his mixed signals and his no show of true dedication. I actually wanted more in life and to live life in the now, as I pretty much spent two years of my life inside.
In June 2016 I thought I’d give the dating app ‘tinder’ a go. I did get quite a few matches though every guy was the same, with a simple ‘Hey’ or ‘Hi’, nothing different or out the ordinary. You could just tell these guys didn’t read the bio that I went to great effort to make.
That was until one guy messaged and clearly had read the bio as his introduction drew me in. The conversations continued and then went on to ‘Snapchat’ to prove with photos. It wasn’t till the day before that after I told my mum of him, she went on to stalk him only to find he has a girlfriend. It was then I called him out and he went on to explain polyamory, which is basically multiple relationships with the consent of all involved.
So I thought this may work out given I have the guy from Australia but also this new guy, especially when his girl is in America. To conclude; the American ended things between them as this wasn’t the outcome she planned for and the Australian didn’t accept it, so it’s me and the tinder guy, of course it was never as simple as that.
Turns out you can find love on tinder as funny as it sounds.